Choices can come and go, others haunt us until we die or correct them, we make them every day and I would like to ask a question about choices.
Who gives you the right to make choices for other people?
When you're little, your parents decide what you wear and what you eat and what you do. The government controls things you can do such as driving, loitering, and drinking. Your morals control what your opinions are and how you act upon situations in real life.
But when it comes to topics such as divorse, such as abortion, or even war who gets to decide?
Although I have my opinions, and I believe certain things, I have come to realize that I have no right to make choices for other people. How can i support anti abortion laws when I have never been in the situation where I could need one? How can I frown upon divorse when I come from a home with a biological mother and father? How can debate war when I didn't know anyone that died in 9/11.
I guess what I am trying to say is that we all come from different places, we all have different knowledge bases but we are all still people, we all have feelings and we all have passions. Just because you feel strongly about something doesnt mean you're right, but it doesnt mean you're wrong. Maybe your decision is good for you and your beliefs, but it may not be right for everyone else. So the next time you feel that your beliefs are right maybe stop and think about if they would be right for the majority of people, maybe they aren't and if not don't pressure them on other people.
For we make choices everyday, sometime there wrong and sometimes there right, it makes people strong to cope with the bad choices and turn them into positive expierences. So mess up and fix it, make better choices in the future, learn from every bad expierence and make it a good one and never makes choices for other people because if it happens to be a bad one it may be harder to fix if it does not just affect yourself.
I agree, just because you believe it, doesn't mean that everyone else has to have the same opinion or else THEY are wrong and YOU are right.
ReplyDeletePeople have the right to their own opinions and thoughts, whether the topic is war, or something more simple like what am I going to wear today. I believe that people make their own choices and that no body can force them to do anything, yet people still blame people for mistakes.
I totally agree.
ReplyDeleteThere are way too many choices we have to make on a daily basis. what to wear, what to eat, what to do after school? some choices are small, others are large. Especially sincwe we're in grade 12, we have to wonder what on earth we are going to do with our lives after graduating. it's a lot of pressure, and we have to make sure we make the right choices. Our choices can only be made by ourselves, and i think it's wrong to try and choose for other people. Great post danica:)
i love this. There are so many people that think their opinion is the best and that they are always right when really, it depends on the person in most situations. Everyone has their own opinion and everyone is intitled to it. Doesnt mean we have to make other people believe the same thing because that is what leads to fighting and war. Like, I understand you have your opinion, but its my life and i choose what i do, you shouldnt care where it leads me, okay? jeese... anyways, thanks for posting this and letting people know that in life, the choice is theirs :)
ReplyDeleteTotally agree. I think it's important to look at all sides of a situation before you decide what is right and what is wrong. Some things are pretty simple of course, but others take some time. I also think that it is important that we don't judge others by their decisions, we're not them, we can't judge. It think it's important that other people have different opinions but also think about WHY they feel that way. Tey world would be a lot better if everyone just put themselves in each others shoes.
ReplyDeleteDecisions, decisions. How often have we said that? The answer is very. We are surrounded by choices every day, and as Heather said, some are larger than others. Our decions are made based on a variety of influences, government policies, our elders, our peers, co-workers, and as you said, our morals. But are any of these influences strong enough to forumulate an strong opinion for any one of these various choices we must make in our lifetime? I am not sure. I wonder what has a stronger influence, all of these structures in society which tell us what is right versus what is wrong, or our own experiences?
ReplyDeleteFor instance, the topic of abortion has been mentioned frequently among the blogs of our class, and I have come to the conclusion that I cannot have an opinion as it has never affected me. This makes me wonder, does exeperience trump everything else?
I have always admired my ability to look at situations from as many perspectives as I can before coming to a consensus about any issue. Your statement: “How can I support anti-abortion laws when I have never been in the situation where I could need one? How can I frown upon divorce when I come from a home with a biological mother and father? How can debate war when I didn't know anyone that died in 9/11”. expresses how I feel exactly. I feel that I don’t have the authority to make decisions, propose suggestions, or formulate opinions on issues which have not effected me directly because I cannot understand the perspectives involved.